Friday, June 26, 2015

A Day on campus

A Day is an annul event that takes place at Delaware Valley University where Bruce is a professor.  It is put on by the students every spring and all proceeds benefit the students and their clubs and organizations.  It's a great big fair, and is generally well attended.  In the past, we have volunteered to help in the milkshake tent - the free milkshakes are a perk.  This year A day was on April 25.  Because Hazel was only a week old, and I wasn't getting around very well, Hazel, my mom, and I decided to stay back while Bruce and my dad accompanied the kids to A Day.  From the sounds of it, they had a blast. 

Here they are sitting on the wagon that takes them up to campus from the parking lot. 

I gave each child enough money to buy 20 tickets that they could use however they wanted. After their pony ride,


they spent the rest of them all in one place - the bouncy slide. 


This actually surprises me because I have taken them to blow up playgrounds and bouncy houses before, and they wouldn't even touch them. 

Poor Bruce; while I was having lunch at Friendly's with my mom and getting Hazel some new clothes, he was literally chasing the kids in every direction.  Zabien has turned into a runner.  He will run through swarms of people without a second thought.  He thinks its funny when we finally catch up with him, that is if some stranger doesn't stop him and search for his parents (which has happened before).  When Eliza is feeling extra mischievous, she will run the opposite direction which leaves the paradoxical question, who do you go after first?

While Bruce was chasing Zaby at the bottom of the slide, Eliza would get up so quickly from the slide and starting climbing the stairs again that she would bypass the ticket line scoring in several extra and free rides.  Lucky her!  Unfortunate Bruce - I think it was more work than fun for him. 

Zaby did stop running long enough to pose for a picture with the mascot of our favorite radio station.

 Despite running out of gas on the way there, I would say that A Day was a success, even if dad was much too exhausted to stop by the milkshake tent.  I'm not even sure he had time to glimpse in on the dairy show.  Poor daddy - he too had to take on a lot of responsibility when Hazel blessed our family. 

The kids got to sit on the wagon by grandpa on the way back to the van.  It's not surprising that they both fell asleep within minutes of pulling out of the parking lot. 

Thursday, June 25, 2015

Hazel's arrival story

It is a miracle every time a baby is born.  Every birth is individual, unique, and a new experience.  Hazel's dramatic delivery was no exception.  Although everything turned out fine and my beautiful baby girl arrived safely, her birth was not at all what I expected. 

In the early afternoon of April 16th (4 days before my due date), I went to the doctor for my regularly scheduled appointment.  In this office, they rotate you through several doctors, and it happened that I hadn't seen this particular doctor yet.  Earlier in the pregnancy, I tested positive for Group B Strep, and needed 4 hours of antibiotics prior to delivery.  Based on my two previous experiences, I am not usually given 4 hours notice before my babies are born.  This was a potential problem.  At this appointment, the doctor indicated that if I was favorable for induction, they would induce me the following week to be sure that I received the proper antibiotics.  Although I wasn't excited about this in the least, I was willing to do it if it was the best approach.  She then proceeded to do a pelvic exam to check my progress. 

Her exam was extremely abrasive, but she told me the baby's head was down and I was quite possibly at a 2.  She scheduled me for induction the following Tuesday (the day after my due date).  She mentioned that if the baby came before then, we would figure it out.

10 minutes after I got home, my water broke at the end of a big contraction.  I was alone at the time.  I became a bit worried since with my previous births, the baby came minutes after my water broke.    I immediately called Bruce, and he said he would leave his office immediately.  I called the doctors office, and despite their disbelief that my water already broke, they told me to head to the hospital.  I texted my friend, who was watching my other children, and asked if she could watch them for an unspecified amount of time. 

It took nearly 25 minutes for Bruce to come home.  The weird thing was despite having leaking fluid, I felt no more contractions.  We finally arrived at the hospital at about a quarter to 3 in the afternoon.  It was strange for me to fill out the proper paperwork, and be hooked up to a monitor (to measure the contractions and my blood pressure).  I never had time for this with the other 2.  It had been an hour since my water broke, and I only had 2 additional contractions - something just didn't seem right.

Here I am just waiting  something to happen - so bizarre!
 
Finally at ten after 3, the hospital doctor came in to examine me.  After her internal exam, she asked what I was told in the office.  I repeated that the baby's head was down, and I was told I was a 2.  She never confirmed my progress, but she suggested we do an ultrasound because she didn't think the baby's head was really down. 



The ultrasound revealed the worst - baby was breech, significantly breech.  The doctor said it was nearly impossibly to deliver her the way she was positioned.  I opted to have them try an External Cephalic Version to try and turn the baby.  They don't generally try this after 37 weeks because it can stress the fetus.  After 30 minutes of trying, it was unsuccessful, she didn't move at all.  At this point, I wasn't in labor yet, but they didn't want me to go into labor, so the doctor opted to do an emergency C section. I cried.  I couldn't help it, I could only cry. 



They wheeled me right over to the OR at about 4:40 and prepped me for a C section. The anesthesiologist asked if I had any questions.  I was full of questions, but I didn't really have much time to get up to speed with what was going to happen.  The anesthesiologist was surprised that I didn't have an epidural with my other children.  He must have been very good, because the spinal tap took seconds, and I didn't even know that he had even started.  Bruce came in the room, and minutes later, I was informed they had already started.  When asked if I wanted to watch them pull the baby out, I said yes.  It was fascinating to watch.  All I could really see, besides some blood, was blue gloved hands.  When they flipped my skin back, I saw a small, cute baby's bottom.  After much tugging, my beautiful baby girl was born at 5:09 pm.


I wasn't at all surprised that the baby was a girl - I had thought she was girl for quite some time.  A C-section is not at all what I wanted.  But, when Bruce and a nurse held my baby girl up to my face for the first time, I was so overcome with happiness that I didn't care how she arrived - she was here! And what a beautiful blessing she is.



Although he didn't do much except stand by my side (which I was grateful for), he was the first one to hold Hazel. 

When I could finally hold her in my arms, she nursed like a champ, and has ever since.  We didn't have any problems. 


Later that same evening, Bruce brought Eliza and Zabien in to see their new baby sister.  Eliza was immediately smitten, and was so gentle with her.

 Zabien was fascinated by her movements, but wasn't ready to hold her initially.  After an hour, he warmed up to her and wanted to take a turn holding her.  We placed her in his arms, and second later he said, "I all done."  Now 2 months later, she is not deprived of affection from either one of them.  Although they both mean well, they are a little too aggressive when hugging and kissing her.  All affection ends with me "rescuing" her after she starts crying.  It's a good thing she is a solid, tough girl in order to survive her older siblings. 


Recovery was very difficult both physically and emotionally.  My 4 days in the hospital were lonely, and the nights even more lonely.  Bruce and the children came to visit every day for about an hour, but since we didn't have anyone to stay with Eliza and Zaby, I was alone at night and a good majority of the day.  Honestly, I cried every night my family left the hospital.  I just wanted someone with me (besides precious Hazel), and the night nurses were not very helpful.  It took nearly 7 weeks for me to feel normal again (even now I still have some bursts of pain where my incision is), but my darling Hazel Mae was so worth it. I love her to pieces.  Welcome to the family baby girl!


Brothers

 What are brothers for?
 
 
Brothers are there to welcome you into the world with strong comforting arms
 
 
Brothers are for smiles and snuggles
 
 
Brothers are for singing you, daddy, and himself to sleep
 
Brothers are for helping you stay upright despite your struggles
 
 
Brothers are there to be the first to say "Good morning"
 
 
 
Brothers are for hugs, even those around the neck, at least you know he's sincere
 
 
Brothers are for the safe keeping of your chair
 
 
Brothers are for being silly, entertaining, and playing funny games
 
Zabien still has a difficult time giving up the post of baby in the family despite his admiration for baby Hazel.  He gets a bit too excited around her, hugs a bit too tightly, and tries too hard to share his snacks with her.  He wants her to run, jump, climb, and play with him so badly that he tries to forcefully move her limbs for her.  All in good time buddy, all in good time. 
 

Both brothers and sisters are great to have around - Hazel is lucky to have both!

Sisters

 What are sisters for?
 
Sisters are for holding you up when you just can't sit alone
 
 
Sisters are for holding in your binky when all you want to do is cry
 
 
Sisters are for smile and giggling, lots and lot of giggles
 
 
Sisters are for hugging, and kissing, and posing in pictures
 
 
Sisters are for buckling you in your car seat when it's time to go. 
 
 
 
Sisters are for keeping you company so you're not lonely
 
 
Sisters are for sharing favorite toys (like Baby Horn) to make you happy while you wait for mom.   
 
Sisters are for helping you make "friends" when you can't bear to face life alone. 
Eliza has a baby doll, we call big baby.  When Hazel outgrew her 0-3 month clothing, I told Eliza she could borrow a couple of outfits to clothe her baby.  I didn't realize that I would have to do a double take every time I saw big baby, especially when I find her face down in the middle of the floor or tucked safely into my bed. 
 
Eliza is a pretty good big sister, even if she can be a little overbearing at times.  She is quick to assist with diaper changes, choose Hazel's outfits, and fetch burp cloths.  She often gets too much into Hazel's face and maker her cry, but overall Hazel smiles when she sees her big sis.
 
 
I sure love these two precious girls! 

Tuesday, June 23, 2015

Work in Progress....

Updates are highly overdue. I know.  I probably have a years worth of pictures that never got posted, and experiences that never got written about.  I have slowly been working on it.  In fact, I have a dozen drafts started, and about 3 dozen more that need to be started. 
However, we have been busy living life rather than blogging about it.  I hope to post some things soon, but considering we are leaving on a month long vacation to Utah in just 5 days, don't expect anything soon.